Introduction
A background check or investigation before marriage ensures compatibility, trustworthiness, and both individuals’ well-being.
Scenario
Two people got married and discover they could not have children. A particular case was someone that got married to an impotent man. When this was discovered, she said she was not interested in the marriage again because there was none? What do you guys think?
From a human perspective, it seems reasonable to think it is okay for a couple to have sex if they are going to be married soon anyway. However, God’s Word has a clear and direct command on this topic: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4). The “sexually immoral” in this verse includes all those who engage in sex outside of marriage. The world views fornication lightly, but not God.
Marriage, in God intent, is not all about sex – Gen. 2:24; therefore, should not be a key factor in deciding whether people should be married or not. Marriage is about partnership for increased productivity in the fulfillment of life purpose.
Before getting married or saying yes, you need to do background checks in a Godly way. Preparatory activities towards marriage should therefore be aimed at ensuring effective partnership. Any explanation Satan gives for why God’s command (which his chastity) to us does not make sense is his plan to rob of us of God’s best for. Satan will make you think you must have sex before marriage to be sure you will be ok. How can you not test something before you buy it.
Yes, it is good to trust but it is better to verify. You can verify a lot of things by being diligence and doing the following:
S/No
Check
Why
How
1
Family
Helps to understand the family you are getting married into
Ask at different times from different people till you are satisfied
2
Blood Group
(A, B, O and AB)
Blood group refers to different human blood types determined by different antigens found on the surface of the RBCs. It does not matter in marriage but Rhesus factor does. Being Rh positive or negative typically does not affect your health, but it could affect your pregnancy.
Blood Test
3
Genotype (AA, AC, AS, CC, SC, and SS)
Genotype is the genetic makeup of an organism.
AA + AA = AA, AA, AA, AA (Excellent)
AA + AS = AA, AS, AA, AS (Good)
AA + SS = AS, AS, AS, AS (Fair)
AA + AC = AA, AA, AA, AC (Good)
AS + AS = AA, AS, AS, SS (Very Bad)
AS + SS = AS, SS, SS, SS (Very Bad)
AS + AC = AA, AC, AS, SS (Bad; Advice needed)
SS + SS = SS, SS, SS, SS (Very Bad)
AC + SS = AS, AS, SS, SS (Very Bad)
AC + AC = AA, AC, AC, SS (Bad; Advice needed)
Blood Test
4
HIV Test
HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus, which causes AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome). HIV weakens the body's ability to fight infections and diseases, and it can be transmitted through sexual contact, blood transfusion, or sharing needles
Blood Test
5
Hepatitis B and C Tests
Hepatitis B and C are viral infections that affect the liver. They can cause inflammation, scarring, cirrhosis, liver cancer, or liver failure. They can be transmitted through sexual contact, blood transfusion, sharing needles, or from mother to child during pregnancy or delivery
Blood Test
6
Fertility Test
Fertility is the ability to conceive and have children. Fertility can be affected by various factors, such as age, lifestyle, hormones, genetics, infections, diseases, or treatments. Fertility problems can affect both men and women.
A blood test to check your hormone levels and ovarian reserve (the number and quality of eggs in your ovaries).
A pelvic ultrasound to check your uterus and ovaries for any abnormalities.
A hysterosalpingogram (HSG) to check your fallopian tubes for any blockages.
A semen analysis to check your partner's sperm count, motility (movement), morphology (shape), and quality.
CONCLUSION
Getting married is a wonderful and exciting experience, but it also comes with responsibilities and challenges. That's why it's important to do some medical tests before you get married, to make sure you and your partner are compatible and healthy.
The aforementioned tests can help you and your partner understand yourselves better, communicate more effectively, seek treatment if needed, support each other, plan for the future, and prevent potential problems.
Thank you.
Posted by Bro-David-Enilolobo
Oct. 6, 2024, 10:31 a.m.